community guidelines

Be kind.

Be kind. If you can’t be kind, at least be civil.

Speak from the “I.”

We ask that you refrain from speaking in the imperative. That means don’t tell others what they should or must do. It’s better to phrase your advice in terms of your own story, talking about what worked for you.

Bad: “You should do X”

Good: “When I was in your situation, I did X, and here is how it worked out for me…”

Telling someone that they need to do something is inappropriate. Remember, not everyone takes the same path to sobriety, and what works for you may not work for others. All any of us can do is tell our own story and hope that others find the similarities themselves.

“Strongly recommending” something is not “speaking from the I.”

This community guideline is also not nullified when someone asks for advice. Speaking from the I still applies.

Post only while sober.

You are welcome to read as much as you’d like while not sober. However, for the sake of everyone here, and for the sake of your own recovery, please only post or comment when you’re sober. “Sober” means “not currently intoxicated or under the influence in any way.”

Don’t critique other members’ comments

There are many ways to communicate and there are many ways to make a point.

It is not appropriate to reply to a commenter to tell him or her that you dislike their style. Doing so creates a hostile environment that makes many feel unwelcome.

As long as a comment is within the bounds of the community guidelines, a member is free to leave that comment without being attacked for doing so. Remember: Your way is not the only way.

Try to keep it on topic.

Listen, there are lots of spaces to promote your personal philosophies and beliefs. It’s awesome that you’re opinionated! We appreciate that. But please try to keep it generally on topic, for the sake of clarity and organization.

Be careful with medical advice.

Please try to avoid asking for and giving medical advice. This doesn’t mean that you can’t discuss your experience with certain procedures or medications, or ask others to share their experiences. But please recognize that talking to a physician is the best (and safest) way to get medical advice.

No promotion.

The comments are not here for you to promote your documentary, your group, your work–literally anything at all. This is meant to provide support and discussion, not serve as free advertising space.

Other related guidelines

Other updates regarding these guidelines, comment moderation, and privacy can be found under the Site News category of the blog.


Thank you in advance for following these guidelines and helping us create an awesome sober space online! 

These guidelines were pulled and amended from the r/stopdrinking subreddit (with the mods’ blessing).