Welcome to our discussion based on Joe C.’s Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life. We post choice quotes from the daily reading, as well as the discussion questions, and encourage you to think on it and respond in the comments. Please keep our community guidelines in mind while commenting.
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”
….”If only” this, “if only” that. Bitch, bitch, bitch! Sometimes our moods are such that we could brighten up a whole room–by leaving it…”If only” is a copout if it stands between us and the start of a spiritual (or some would say natural) journey. Our lives are here and now. We are good enough right now, the world is far enough and we have enough to get by for today.
Perfectionism is customary among addicts. There is a Twelve Step trap some addicts fall into: approval and the need for it. We will overcompensate, we will act as if, we will set unrealistic goals and we will feel ashamed for not meeting them. A thirst for approval interferes with our abilities to accept life as it is. It gets worse with time if we fancy ourselves powers of example.
…Unconditional self-approval can start now. We are imperfect. Life is chaotic. The future is uncertain. This is here, this is now and this is as good as it gets.
- Can I see myself being happy no matter what the circumstances?